Actress Robin Givens has played many roles in her life – retiring wallflower not being among them. She burst onto the scene as the beautiful and brainy Darlene on Head of the Class, a sitcom that aired on ABC from 1986 to 1991. She became a media explosion around the same time when she married and then divorced boxing’s former world heavyweight champion, Mike Tyson.
Throughout the 1990’s and early 2000s, Robin picked up the pieces with a string of film roles including A Rage in Harlem with the late Gregory Hines,Forest Whitaker and Danny Glover; Boomerang opposite Halle Barry and former flame turned colleague Eddie Murphy; Blankman opposite Damon Wayons; and Head of the State with Chris Rock.
During this time, she became a mom to two boys and retreated from the spotlight, save for the release of her 2007 memoir, Grace Will Lead Me Home, in which she opened up about the issue of domestic violence, which she admits in the book had plagued her family for generations.
During our conversation, Givens offered thoughtful, sometimes emotionally charged, humorous and reflective insights on her journey through womanhood and Hollywood.
Allison Kugel: You took years away from the spotlight to focus on being a mom to your two sons. Now you’re back with two television shows, the CW’s Riverdale and the new OWN series, Ambitions. How did you come back with the thunder?
Robin Givens: It wasn’t only taking a break to raise my kids. It was also a break for myself. It’s true that you feel like you are going to maintain your place in line; like everything is going to stop and wait for you. I had to realize that it’s a process again.
You have to enjoy the process and begin again, and I really fell in love with acting again. When I first started acting, it wasn’t really like that. Now I can go in a room and act and do my thing and enjoy the process for what it is. Water seeks its own level. If you’re good, you’re good, and it all kind of begins again.
Your new show, Ambitions, premiered June 18th on the OWN Network. It seems like Oprah has always championed your career. Even when the chips were down, she was a champion for your career. You worked with her as an actress, and you were also on the Oprah show quite a bit over the years.
I feel like at one point we were just friends. We did do [the mini-series] The Women of Brewster Place (1989) together, which was a huge role for me. She and I developed a genuine friendship, just as women. I don’t think it had anything to do with my career, per se. I do think that there is something to it coming full circle and being here with her now, doing this show on her network.
Do these vixen roles find you, or do you seek them out? How do you always wind up playing that woman?
(Laughs) You’re right. There was a time when I was having these roles come to me and I remember saying to my agent, “I don’t want to do that woman. I just did that woman.” I ended up turning something down because of it. I’m nothing like these women that I play, which is unusual and interesting for me. I always jokingly say, “I want to grow up and be them.” Where I am now in my life, emotionally, it’s like, “Okay, you want me to do that? Then I’m going to do it to death,” and then wait for the opportunity where I can do something completely different.
A lot of men out there think you are that woman. Do you know that?
I think women think that, too. I don’t think it’s only men. Whenever I’m in hair and makeup, they’re always like, “My God, you are nothing like that person!” Me, Robin, I have a whole different rhythm.
Based on your marriage to Mike Tyson, you have done a lot of advocacy work for women.
The reality is, the guy I lived with was the same guy that bit up [Evander] Holyfield’s ear in the ring. That’s the guy I was dealing with on a daily basis; the same guy that went to jail for rape (Givens is speaking of Tyson’s 1992 rape conviction). I was dealing with that guy the best way I could at twenty-two years old.
I interviewed Mike, I think about seven years ago, and I liked him during our interview. Of course, it was so many years later. I don’t want to take away from his ability to change and grow as a person. But what you experienced is valid and real, and your feelings about it are valid and very real. Your voice also continues to be valuable regarding domestic violence.
I’ve done a lot of work with women, and it’s not only happening with celebrities, obviously. It’s the guy at the golf club in Connecticut that everybody loves. It’s the mayor of a small town who’s sweet and charming in public. With everything that is going on with the #MeToo movement, we’re kind of forcing a lot of men to get that certain things are unacceptable. Certain things now, thirty years later, must be unacceptable. We have to do better now.
You began speaking up about violence against women years before the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements took root.
I didn’t plan on speaking on behalf of women, but it really did become a part of my healing. My ex-husband had been on Oprah and he had talked about hitting me in a cavalier way, like, “Oh, yeah I hit her,” and everybody [in the audience] laughed. I was somewhere doing a speaking engagement, and someone said to me, “Robin, you can’t take this!” I realized it was far bigger than me and I was told I had to do something, if not for me, then for all other women. One of the things I always say is, “My story is your story, and your story is my story.”
That was when you had that sit-down with Oprah to air your grievances about Mike Tyson’s appearance on her show.
I sat down with Oprah to discuss her interview with my ex-husband, which was the last thing I wanted to do. She apologized to me. After the show, she came into my dressing room and she said “Robin, as it was happening I knew it was wrong, but I didn’t know what to do.” I think that sums up a lot. Not to put the weight of the world on Oprah. Certainly, she is an amazing, amazing woman.
But if Oprah Winfrey doesn’t know what to do in these situations, the discomfort of it, then a lot of us don’t know how to respond to that. It’s much easier to put people in a box and say, “She must have wanted his money,” than to believe that somebody could punch a 105-pound woman. We saw it happen with (ex-NFL player) Ray Rice. Now you can’t pretend it away or give an excuse for it. Now we have a responsibility to not let certain things slide. We’re better than that and we’ve come too far.
What are the biggest misconceptions about you and famous men, in general?
I met Eddie Murphy when I was in my sophomore year at Sarah Lawrence College. He had just gotten Saturday Night Live. He wasn’t the “Eddie Murphy” that the world now knows, at that time. He was an actor that was happy to get a job. It was the same thing with Brad Pitt. When I dated Brad, Brad couldn’t get a job. I was paying for all our meals and he was a struggling actor.
We talked a lot about acting because were in acting class together and we loved acting together. At the time, I had already gotten the role on Head of the Class. It was a different dynamic, where I was the big deal to [Brad]. You know what I mean? I lived it all at a young age, thank God, and I get to have a good perspective on reality and how it can be changed.
There was a pivotal moment in your life, when I believe you were studying at Harvard with the intention to become a doctor, before you decided to pivot and pursue acting. In retrospect, was this the right path?
I was at Harvard Graduate School and I knew I was going to be a doctor, or so I thought at the time. By the time I got to Harvard, though, I was really wanting to pursue acting. If you asked me 10 years ago, I would have said I should have become a doctor. As a mom, I just came from visiting my son and saying to him, “Get a law degree! Get a law degree!”
My mom was raised in the South at a time when, as a woman, she couldn’t go in the front door of a movie theatre. She could buy clothes at Woolworth, but she couldn’t try them on, and she couldn’t sit at the counter and eat. I think I grew up with the sense of what she believed, which is that education is a great equalizing factor in America. I have a parent who, literally, just stopped leaving me medical school applications any time she’d come to visit. Up until recently, I knew there was an application to some medical school lurking somewhere in the house (laughs).
Do you pray?
I have a great relationship with God. For me, that has been a very important relationship. He’s the only Father I’ve ever known. I would often sit down with God and say, “I don’t want to have to go through this.” But it’s all gotten me to where I am, both as a person and as a mom with these two kids. I grew up Catholic with a sense of the ritual of Catholicism. Certainly, I have some questions about all of that now, and some misgivings. But it is something I still do [observe]. And I always say that my ex-husband [Mike Tyson] taught me, and gave me, a true relationship with God.
What do you think you are here on this earth as Robin Givens to learn, and what do you think you are here to teach?
I’m the first of two children and I have a type-A personality. I always say I’m a recovering perfectionist. That’s something I’ve had to learn, and there is a kind of humor in the quest for perfection. It’s not very interesting, and you can never really achieve it. That’s something that life has taught me. The difficulty that I have gone through has really taught me a sense of compassion. Most people in my life know that I am a compassionate, loving person. I’ve also had to learn to relax a little bit, because my brain does start overworking.
And what are you here to teach?
I would say the same thing; sharing a sense of compassion. Life is short and time truly is our greatest commodity. It’s the one thing you never get back. I lost a sister, unexpectedly, almost five years ago and I would do anything to have more of those moments. I try to tell my children that there is not that much to get here [on earth].
You want to have enough to spend time with the people you love. You want to have dinner with the people you love. If you feel like going to Paris, you want to go to Paris with people you love. It’s all about the moments, and not the car you drive. Happiness and joy lie in simplicity, so try to keep it simple.
Let’s dive into your character, Stephanie Carlisle, on Ambitions.
What interests me is the challenge to bring a character like Stephanie Carlisle to life. To get the role of Stephanie, I borrowed a dress from The Fix for the audition. Once I read the script, I felt I could do this role better than anyone. I just needed to carry that energy into the room with me and believe it.
Once I started to dissect her, I knew that I wanted her to be more than what was on the page. I wanted to give her shades and dimensions, a heart, and make her real. She was written as an ice queen, but there is more to her. My interpretation is that she is a woman that has her own set of rules. She also has this sensibility that she is never going to live up to her father, and that’s where her wanting comes from.
Why should audiences watch Ambitions?
I could describe it as a guilty pleasure, but someone once said, “There is no guilt in pleasure.” It’s going to be that kind of fun show where women gather around to watch with some wine and popcorn. Their husbands or boyfriends will walk by and probably join them. I think men will love it as much as women.
Ambitions can be seen at 9 p.m. on OWN. Follow Robin Givens on Twitter @therocknrobn and Instagram @robingivens.
Allison Kugel is a syndicated entertainment columnist, author of the book, Journaling Fame: A memoir of a life unhinged and on the record, and owner of communications firm, Full Scale Media. Follow her on Instagram @theallisonkugel and AllisonKugel.com.
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